If I am to connect with god, what do I need to do

First of all remember he/she is a god of love. God never judges you. You judge yourself. God is always waiting for you to contact him/her, and the moment you do you will begin to change everything in your life. 

It does not need to separate you from those you love, but you may not choose the same things. 

In god's love you have no enemies, no one you cannot forgive, no one that you wish to judge harshly. All people are simply souls lost on their path home to the god in their heart, and all you have done is taken a step into your heart - you can't take it for another, but your example (not by telling anyone but by being more of the true heart you) will inspire them to make their own connection too. 

God is part of every single person, and if we see those who hurt as being hurt, and those who heart as being heart, then you will know that anyone who tries to hurt you also hurts................it does not make it right, but it means you can be free of the pain of hate and anger and frustration. Love all and know you are connected with your god in your heart..........and then wait for the miracles to happen as you bring this connection with your part of god into all of your life. 

They will happen if you invite god in every day..........and become the real you again..........